A study in Finland in 2016 found that both men and women make more friends until the age of twenty-five. After that, the numbers begin to fall rapidly and continue to fall throughout the rest of our lives. However, if you really cultivate the habit of making friends, you will have friends with you throughout your life.
Making friends happens in two ways; either you taking the initiative to make a friend or responding to the friend request of someone who makes the move to make you their friend. Either of these will result in you making a friend. So whether you're an extrovert or introvert you can still make friends. All you need to know how to make friends.
“The shortest key to making friends is to simply be a friend.” – John Arthur.
To make friends you have to first be a friend. To be a friend is to become genuinely interested in people just for their sake. Dale Carnegie, the author of "How to Win Friends and Influence People", whose books have imparted generations for more 85yrs said this, "You can make more friends in two months by being interested in people, than you can in two years in getting people interested in you."
“The day become genuinely interested in people, is the day you become ready to make friends.” –John Arthur.
For you to make friends or receive friends into your life, there are a few things you have to do;
- Smile and say hi to people.
- Briefly introduce yourself to people.
- Start a conversation with people.
- Call people by their names.
- Ask people if you could exchange contacts with each other.
- Keep in touch with people.
Making friends is not about just knowing people, but also keeping in touch with them. So keep in touch with those God schedules into your life as friends after your first meeting with them.
Hope this has been impactful. Let's know of your feedback.
Kind regards,
JOHN ARTHUR,
AUTHOR | SPEAKER | PRESIDENT,
THE SCHOOL OF FRIENDSHIP.