“A true friend is someone who thinks that you are a good egg even though he knows that you are slightly cracked” (Bernard Meltzer). Bringing the best out of your friends is a decision to make. You have to take a leap of faith to believe the best in your friends, despite their failures, and flaws you see every day.
"If you don't see beyond the weakness and limitations of others, you will never experience the greatness in them." - John Arthur.
Dr. Mike Murdock always says God hides His best gifts in the most flawed vessel. So that, one, evil men will not see it and two, for only true friends to qualify for it. You need to be a true friend and a best friend who believes the best in your friends.
3 WAYS TO BRING OUT THE BEST IN YOUR FRIENDS
Henry Ford said, "My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me." These three keys will help you bring out the best in your friends.
1. REINFORCE EXCELLENT
PERFORMANCE.
When a friend does something good, take time within that very moment to appreciate them. Let them know what they did was good and you would desire they keep it up and do more of it. Don't let the day go by without complimenting a friend you admire.
Doing this will let them know you believe the best in them and expect the very best from them. Like I said, what you praise, you raise. Anything you applaud appreciates in value. Just simple "Well done", "Keep it up", "I'm proud of you", could unlock the greatest potential in those around you. Be a best friend who helps others to be great.
2. REWARD GOOD BEHAVIOUR.
Reward your friends. It's a practice you have to develop. Give them gifts for their good conduct, and character towards you and others. This increases their urge to exhibit more of those qualities. "The behaviour you reward in your friends is the behaviour that becomes the strongest in their lives." (John Arthur).
Don't criticize your friends for the wrong things they do. Look for the positive and good qualities they portray and reward them for it. It shows how you believe in them and want to bring out the best in them. Whatever you reward, reproduces itself.
3. RECOMMEND OPPORTUNITIES FOR GROWTH.
To bring out the best in your friends and demonstrate how you believe in them, you need to introduce them to opportunities that would develop them and help to bring out the best in them. Don't leave them the same way you found them.
What you cannot do for them, others can. And it is through your recommendations for opportunities for development that could help to make them better than you found them.
"The friends you recommend today will become your reward systems tomorrow." - John Arthur.
There is more potential in your friends than you know. If you could only believe in them, ignore their flaws and link them up to channels of blessings; you would be amazed at the depth of gifts, potentials and abilities God has deposited in them. Believe in your friends and help to bring out the best in them.
Kind regards,
JOHN ARTHUR,
AUTHOR | SPEAKER
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