Let's continue with our quest to answering the question regarding dating and friendship as we started some time ago...
From the question we were tackling, it is clear that the guy is saying “I want to be a friend to the lady rather than a dating partner”. The solution for them is not to stop dating come what may.
Dating isn’t a bad thing. Instead, friendship must be present in their dating. Friendship must be present in their dating else it won’t be successful. Understand this, friendship is very necessary in any form of relationship including dating.
The nature of friendship must be portrayed when dating. If dating partners understand friendship and exhibit it in their relationship, there will be no need for either of them to exude happiness from each other but rather express happiness to each other.
Without friendship, dating will be unsuccessful. Someone can be your teacher, sister, brother, pastor, dating partner etc……but still not a friend to you. Friendship can’t be and exemption in dating.
Most relationship are not working because the partners involved do not understand friendship. For dating to be successful, there must the nature of friendship in it. The nature of friendship such as love, respect, unity, “sacrifice”, honesty, faithfulness and understanding must be present in dating.
Friendship is a two-way affair, so is dating. From the question above, it is seen that the lady wants all her needs to be satisfied. How can this be true friendship? Jim Morrison says “A friend is someone who give you the freedom to be yourself”. The lady is not dating but rather wants to satisfy her needs. This is selfishness!!!!
In conclusion, I am not saying that in the course of dating you are not supposed to offer help of any form to your partners. Sometimes situations may demand that you help your partner come out of a particular emergency. Even so, it should be done with pure heart and true love. It shouldn’t be done with an investment intention.
The strongest and most successful long-term relationships are based on friendship rather than any sense of need or incompleteness on the part of either or both persons involved
I hope this exposition has enlighten your thought and will make your relationship life very great.
Let us all practice this in our relationships and we are assured that we will have a better relationship. Thank you for spending time to read this article.
Stay blessed.
Never stop reading!!!!!!!
Kind regards,
SAMUEL E. ABBUAH
SOF STUDENT
ASHANTI REGIONAL CAMPUS
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